I’ve never flown and it’s starting to annoy my family that we can never go abroad. I’m terrified of flying and would love to solve it. Would a Hypnosis cd help at all?
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I’m 17 and am the farthest from skinny. I’ve always been fine with it and sometimes even used to exercise to keep from getting out of control. It worked fine with my food intake and casual cardio. Even lost some weight. For most of the winter, i went into a hibernation of sorts and didn’t do much activity, and naturally gained a few pounds. I was planning on working it off in the spring as done the year before, but rather than just pissing me off by telling me a teen shouldn’t be fat like me, my dad took the route where he makes jokes about my weight… constantly. That don’t help! So there goes my eating plan that i started just as this happened. I basically threw out my several small meals and took up eating big ones a few times a day until I was full, Then I ate a lil more. So now there is a new quarter and I took a Gym so I can work it all out and hopefully feel better about myself. My dad still doesnt shut up and now I feel I have gained so much than my peers are noticing(so it isnt just my opinion). Now i get poked and called pudgy, people are rubbing my belly for good luck, etc. Even though i try to give it my all, I just counter it all with more and more eating. I can’t see how to overcome this phase in my life. Haha sorry that you have to read all these teen troubles…
You decide that you will go back to the several small meals a day and increase your physical activity, and realize that your parents and peers are jerks
My girlfriend is 19, and she self harms. She’s been prescribed ‘Xanax and Paxil’ over the last few months, to help her with anxiety, panic attacks and depression etc. But she still self harms herself. She says that it makes her feel better, I just don’t understand why she’d do this?
Can anyone please help me?
If you could, give better detailed answers, could you email me at ’spencer.019@hotmail.com’ please, and thanks.
You need to work together to find another outlet for her emotions. This could be an emotions diary, a new hobby, strenuous exercise… It’s trial and error. She needs to replace the self-harm with more healthy ways of letting her bad emotions out, and while this is not easy, it’s the only way. Keep trying different things. She may regress but stick at it.
Look and see if you can find the movie
"First Cause No Pain"
I think that’s it. Is about epilepsy. All the cast has "had" epilepsy and had received a treatment called the "Ketogenic diet" at Mayo Hospital. It was awesome.
My brother was epileptic and his meds killed his liver before he had to opportunity to make any arrangements.
so this might be kind of long.
anyway, well, i self harmed, i told one of my closest friends, and i asked her to help, and she said i needed more help to stop, and told one of the teachers (she is only 25 and everyone comes to her with problems and stuff,shes reallt nice and my 4th hour teacher) anyway, i told this friend (lets call her "jane") about a weekish ago,and ive self harmed for about 5 months, no one knew, i hide it, and she wanted to help me so she told this teacher (yesterday, i BEGGED her to not, but she did because i needed the help,she just cared) and the teacher told the principle,principle called my mom and dad (parents have been divorced since i was 3) and they knew, i got picked up from school,and i was so mad at my friend, and went upstairs crying.but by this time, my mom already knew, and i knew "jane" told the one teacher, and i thought my mom knew i self harmed because i assumed the teacher called.but i wasnt for sure.
then my mom confronted me, no she wasnt mad at all, she was just upset ive been having to deal with it (no im not going into the reason i self harmed, to confusing, but trust me it was with good reason) and then my sister came over (shes 25) and my mom told her, and my dad knew (school called him) and my aunt linda knows (shes like a 2nd mom) and thats all i think who knows i SH (that i know of, besides "jane" her friend [who is my friend too] and my ex [were friends]) and my parents finding out wasnt that bad,we talked and stuff, and i thought itd be SO much worse, but it wasnt, but i am so frustrated with everything, you cant just tell someone not to self harm, and expect them to quit right away, and thats what everyones expecting from me (my ex,still likes me, he SH’s too, and told me, so i told him i did, we are good friends, and i can trust him) and i know "jane" was just trying to help,but it seems like its just making everything worse with everyone knowing. i regret telling her sooo much, and im ashamed that i cut,im not proud, but i feel like i need to, but if i do, it will just upset everyone who cares. i know, if you dont self harm, you wont understand, but i just need help, i want to SH, SOOOO BADLY. i feel like i need to, to keep my day going, but im trying not to. please please please anyone, give me any tips on anything, anything i should do, just please help me
and if your an ex-self harmer, or recovering, i would really like your opinions, please help me, any tips, anything,
thank you so much,
sorry this was so long
sorry i didnt clarify this
but in the begining when i said (shes only 25…) ect, i was talking about the teacher,not my friend
also, yesterday me and my mom talked about it, after wards, i thanked my friend, and apologized, i do think she was trying to help,shes an amazing friend, i know, but i have just been crying for like 2 days straight about this whole issue
ok, I’ve never done anything like that, but regardless I still feel it is necessary to say something. First of all we all make mistakes, including you and your friend "Jane". To me it seems like she is a good friend that you should hang on to, because she was just worried about you and wanted to get you help because she knew she couldn’t do anything. To you it might seem like a slime ball thing to do right now, but trust me you will eventually thank her.
Now, I want you to think about if this whole thing went unanswered, you never told your friend. Would you have become suicidal. Now just don’t roll your eyes when you read that because it is a serious question. You may of never thought about it now, but if you had kept this going you might have gotten thoughts, why don’t I just end this now, no point. So thank her when you go back to school. Even if you still don’t want to thank her. Then ask her why she did it, and you may become a lot closer with your friend than you ever knew.
OK, now I want to say cutting yourself is never the solution, whether its boy problems or not. I’m a teenager too, I’m 16 so I know the pressures that you have, probably even ten times more.
But know this, you are beautiful, your better than this. You won’t stop tomorrow, or not even weeks from now. But I pray that eventually, about a month from now, you stop this. Because no one needs to have pain if it is unnecessary. Surprisingly, when you believe that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, you’ll begin to see it. You are beautiful so don’t do this to yourself
Now, I want you to start a new hobby for me. Even if you can’t sing a tune, or tone deaf or whatever. Pick up a pencil and paper and write every single feeling that you have felt ever since you started self harming yourself up till yesterday. Now put it into a melody either your own or a song to one like carrie underwood or whoever you listen to. Talk about all your feelings.
Then go to your parents your aunt to, and say what you wrote (you don’t have to sing it) but just let them know what you’ve been feeling
Do not my friend trust your ex boyfriend. HE KNEW ABOUT THIS AND DIDN’T DO ANYTHING. He doesn’t care about you, especially if he is the one who made you do this. He doesn’t care about you, because if he did, he would want you to stop harming yourself, because he wouldn’t want to see you in a grave would he? But he didn’t do anything.
I hope some of this helped
involves ‘natural’ cures and less man-made chemicals. I have a friend who has recently gone to a doctor who took her off of many of the meds she was taking and prescribed these more ‘natural’ remedies. She went because she was turning into a ‘zombie’ like person due to all the pills that her other doctor had her on. SO MANY side effects and she was miserable. I just hope it is safe since she has a heart condition and all sorts of other major problems; health wise. YOur thoughts??
I’m studying that in school right now. The fact is that there are some surgical interventions that produce results no different than those obtained from having the check-out girl at Wal-Mart sprinkle faerie-dust on a patient. It is also utter nonsense to suggest that Complementary Alternative Therapies have no empirical support.
Just based on the facts that you’ve offered (and with the assumption that the "doctor" you refer to is in fact an allopathic physician), I’d say your friend is a pretty lucky person.
Last year I made approx 60k. My wife and I own (not outright, we’re paying on) our house and two rental properties, and we have 2 dependents. We have always gotten a hefty refund prior to my self-employment. Does anyone have a ballpark idea of what my tax liability should be?
15.3% self-employment tax
Income tax depends on how much you are paying in interest on the mortgage, but figure roughly 15% again.
ok, so i work at a supermarket on checkout while im saving to go get a diplomia.. but lately they ahve had trouble finding supervisors, which is like a step up from checkout ie, they deal with confirming the sale on alcohol, smokes, refunds, customer service ect.
I have worked there for 2 years, pretty much know everything, sometimes even better then the supervisors……and really want to go for it. Im 18. They have been training up people who are 16 to do alcohol, so why couldnt i??
I just lack self confidence, and am terrified of being rejected……and need some help on how to act and get this!! help!
I’ll offer a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt in answer to your question:
"Whether a man thinks he can or can not do a thing, he’s right"
As to what you should do, I’ll offer a quote from Nietzsche:
"Act boldly, and great forces will come to your aid."
I went to the doctors about depression but I didn’t tell him I cut myself…and he wasn’t very helpful. I really don’t want to tell a professional person but I want to stop.. I’m just finding it hard. I just want to know if it’s possible to stop on your own? if anyone else has done it?
thanks x
Self harm is a tough habit to break on your own or with help.
The first step is to try to reduce the amount of time you spend hurting yourself. Think about the thoughts in your head when you notice you want to self harm. For me, it’s the frustration, anger or hopelessness. Try to manage your thoughts and feelings in a different way. Write down what you are feeling. Talk to someone about your feelings. Try to keep your hands busy doing a craft or hobby. These are the things that have helped me. I also do go to therapy and take medication. Please stay safe.
I use them to swat flies.