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Help with low self esteem 9yr old?

Posted by admin on Mar 2, 2011 under Self Help

I work in a Daycare with children 3-12. Two of the kids are the girl i work with Grand kids. One of them is having a hard time with self esteem. She has been Stealing classmates things, and refuses to Listen to her father. She argues over something as simple as brushing her teeth or showering. (Shes 9). The have put her in therapy but it has made things worse. They tried the Big brother/sister program. Didn’t work. She has grown up with out a mother since she was 2. She abandoned them. So I said i would start hanging out with her away from work.

I need suggestions to help teaching her morals(Showering)
Ways to get her Self esteem up.
and just activities to do with her. (shes a tom-boy so it works for me.)

Any sugggestions or opinions or ideas will help =] Thanks

Oh by the way, im 18/girl
8 minutes ago - 4 days left to answer

Well you say she’s a tomboy? Don’t push, but do encourage her to not be so tomboyish. If its the self esteem she needs help with just make her feel pretty, I don’t agree with the makeup at such a young age, but clips and fingernail polish are awesome.
If you live in a rural area, or a small town, go on those long bike rides around town, introduce her to everyone you know so she gets more involved in the community. If you live in a bigger city take her out to the movies, shopping, dining out! Good luck!! :)

How does fashion help you have better self esteem?

Posted by admin on Feb 16, 2011 under Self Help


look good, feel good.

How can i help my friend not self harm?

Posted by admin on Feb 14, 2011 under Self Help

Basically my friend has only been going out with this boy for 5 days and she went to a party and kissed another boy, who she now likes, i know it was wrong for her to cheat, but she’s gone into a state of depression now, and i know she’s had self harm problems before how can i help her without referring her to a clinic, just by me talking to her
thanks

sweetie self harm is a serious problem,its another form of addiction..your friends probably has never stopped self harming she’s just hiding it better and unfortunately without professional help the chances of here stiopping it on her own are slim..you need to encourage her into getting help..
heres some useful sites that help with depression and self harm
www.b-eat.co.uk
www.childline.co.uk
www.twloha.com
www.getconnected.org.uk/self-harm
www.thesite.org.
i hope you get ur friend the help she needs honeypie..i suffer with self harm and it can be beaten xx

best self-help books?

Posted by admin on Feb 12, 2011 under Self Help

Okay.I’ve slowly been improving my social skills and I’m alot better at small talk and talking to strangers.But I’d like to be one of those people that capture the attention in a room and is well loved by everyone.Are there any books that would help me with this?If so…what book do you think is the best?Thanks!
*sticks tongue out at everyone*

lol.Well,not well loved by everyone.Have you ever been to a social gathering and saw one person whom everyone seemed to like and respond to??That’s what I mean.
AWESOME answer pursueing!!
Oh my gosh,pursuing!I have the book "No Acting Please" by Eric Morris!I haven’t had the chance to read through it yet…but you’re right.Books on acting seem to really help with socila situations.

Interesting. I would take a look at a couple of books. "Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff", "If Life is a Game, These Are the Rules", and then I would look at some acting books, just because they help you to become more comfortable in social situations. The ones I would look at would be "Irreverent Acting" "Being and Doing" and the "Being and Doing Workbook" by Eric Morris. He is often criticized for his technique because it borders on therapy, but that is good for this situation. Start with the "Being and Doing Workbook", it will help. Actors tend to do well in social situations. Goodluck.

Please help with a six word memoirs/sentence about my self.?

Posted by admin on Feb 10, 2011 under Self Help

Please help me make one…. I like computers I want to go to university of Detroit and hopefully be a programmer one day.

Born to look at pc screens.

please someone help my self-esteem..?

Posted by admin on Feb 9, 2011 under Self Help

Hey guys, this has been going on for a LONG… time.
I have the lowest self-esteem possible probably. All my friends are skinny and pretty and that’s why it probably gets to me. I have to say i’m not the skinniest person out there…. let’s just say i’m no where near skinny. My body is the number one thing that i hate the most.
I’ve been trying to lose weight for over 3 years now and i’m only 15 years old.
I just can’t do it. I go to the fitness room frequently, plus i go running out in the park while it’s WINTER out. I just can’t seem to lose weight it ANY way. I’ve thought this over and it seems like I eat for no apparent reason. I eat when I’m bored, I eat when I’m mad like honestly what the hell haha. I just feel my self-esteem will go so high if i get skinny (lose weight), but i just can’t seem to do it. Can anyone tell me the basic things I need to help me reach my goal.
PLUS.. trust me on this when i say it but I’ve looked through all the weight loss videos on youtube and all the leg thinning exercises but i just can’t seem to lose even 5 pounds..

There is no other way to lose weight besides exercisein g and eating veggies

Can we learn anythin from -Meditations-by Marcus Aurelius.I know he wrote it as a self help guide. Is it good?

Posted by admin on Feb 6, 2011 under Self Help


John James….are you happy in your life? What makes you happy? Do you like being lonely? Or would you rather have a partner? Answer those questions, and you won’t need Marcus Aurelius’ "Meditations".

I need help, please!?! Self Harm Question? ?

Posted by admin on Feb 2, 2011 under Self Help

i know its a nasty habit… and many people will think its psychotic but i have been cutting since i was 11 and i am now 13; i really want to stop, but i don’t have enough will power to do it on my own… and i feel like i am losing everyone, so i don’t have very many people to talk to.

does any one have any good websites/forum sites?
anything i can use for support…

i need help trying to stop… because i am scared that now that things are getting worse… i might slip up worse.

It would be a good idea to talk to the guidance counselor at your school. You are feeling like things are getting worse. Reach out for help to someone that can either work with you or point you in the right direction. Cutting can cause a serious infection. I developed this infection several times. It needs to be treated with antibiotics. Please stay safe.

What are some things that I can do to help my self esteem stay positive?

Posted by admin on Jan 30, 2011 under Self Help


Well you can start by thinking and saying positive thoughts about yourself and who you are. Read books about how to have a positive attitude.

Would self tanning lotion help reduce the appearance of stretch marks?

Posted by admin on Jan 28, 2011 under Self Help

I have both white and pinkish stretch marks. My legs are fairly pale, not too pale but not tanned at all. I have two weeks to minimize the appreance of my stretch marks and i was just wondering if the tanning lotion would help. ive heard both yes and no. The tanning lotion i have is Jergens natural glow. Thanks in advance!

There are a few ways to do it, either you can use the DIY method or try those proven treatment creams out on the market.

Try to massage the area with the stretch marks about three or four times a day with moisturizers that contain cocoa butter or shea butter as a prime ingredient. This hydrates the skin, making it more pliant. Again, this is most effective only in the initial stage.

If your stretch marks are already pass the initial stage (when they are red, purple, pink, or brown, depending on the color of your skin) and become white or silver (usually with deep indentation), then it would be far more difficult to minimize them, but not entirely impossible to "remove" them. But before you begin searching for these treatments, try to read more information on these topical treatments first.

Many are advertised to "repair" stretch marks, but few have actually been proven to be effective. Here’s some that are available on the market:

a) Wheat germ oil - may help improve stretch marks in their early phase.

b) Glycolic acid - increases collagen production; can be administered in higher doses by a dermatologist (usually costs a few hundred bucks and requires a few visits before you see results)

c) Vitamin C - certain formulations might increase collagen production, but they’ll only help with early-stage stretch marks; for best results, combine with glycolic acid.

d) Relastin - the effectiveness of this product is unknown and unverified.

e) Peptide-containing products - these "repair" creams are ineffective; there’s no evidence that they work.

f) Retinoids - they’re fairly effective in increasing collagen and elastic production in the early stages, but they should be avoided if you’re pregnant or nursing; they’re more effective when used in combination with glycolic acid.

I would recommend treatments that are using "100% natural ingredients" such as aloe vera. Aloe vera has been shown in clinical studies to have a positive effect on wound healing and holds anti-inflammatory properties.

As stretch marks start out as microscopic tears in skin layers due to overstretching of the dermis, aloe vera helps heal these small wounds without causing scar tissue to form, effectively preventing the appearance of stretch marks. Aloe vera has been used for thousands of years by the Egyptians, Romans, Greeks, Arabs, Indians and Chinese to decrease the appearance of scars and to moisturize and heal skin. The extracts from the aloe leaf protects skin from environmental factors and promotes skin regeneration.

My friend recommended me this and I have been using for a few weeks now, have shown some positive results but I am monitoring the progress since the product have a 90 days return policy. For more details, you can check out the site below:
>> http://is.gd/NHQQ

Read more about stretch marks on wiki: http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-Stretch-Marks