Self Improvement Tips & Resources

I’ve read several self-help books (library) and I seem to never change. I’m still lazy, unmotivated, and do what I want to regardless of the boiler-plated advice of other "gurus." I read online that people that buy self-help books often buy several and they don’t seem to work from what I’ve read. Your opinion please.

Maybe it’s just you, that you actually want to continue lazy? I myself bought one on stress and it really did help. I am a hundred times more chill now than a year ago. Though you shouldn’t rely on them completely. You really have to consider how to change your ways yourself.

I want a Internet forum whether they are brutal and criticize you in every move that you make. Their harshness forces you to grow and improve your self.

How about positive affirmations?

im new to the book publishing industry and i do not know how to publish my book. can i publish a book from outside my country even though i cant travel? im from the middle east and they wont approve books that have bad words in them and i refuse to change words in my book just because it has bad words in them. thank you for answering.

Here’s a how to article on how to self publish on CreateSpace.
http://www.jjritonya.com/HowToSelfPublishOnCreatespace.pdf
-JJ

I need to add a skill and I am at a writers block, can’t figure out how to say I am a self motivated worker. (I need to say it creatively :o) help!?
So true coach Kim, this works! Shortening a little, thank you very much!

I am a worker who takes initiative and seeks out solutions whenever problems arise. Additionally, I am proactive and self-motivated when it comes to aligning my actions with the vision and goals of the company.

(hope this all true (smile))

My boyfriend self-harms and it makes me really upset. I used to self-harm so I understand how it feels and I know that there really is no stopping him. Does anyone have any ideas on how I can stop him or at leats help him see there is more to life than it?

try not to get upset - just remember that it is his way of coping. just try to make sure he knows that you are there for him if he wants to talk.

i am a self harmer and i found it helpful to have a code with my best mate where i called her and asked something like "whats the weather like tomorrow" and that was her que to ask if everything was ok.

you cant stop him from doing it but maybe if you go to the doctors with him and see if he can be referred for councelling as i find it helps to talk to a stranger rather than someone i know.

just make sure the injuries are looked after as if they are not they may become infected.

good luck, and just remember to be there for him xxx

I would like to write only what you want to hear about regarding personal development; how to manage time, how to have a vision, be more powerful in decisions, for example. Would this information be important to you, and if so, what specifically would be of interest to you?

People seem to need guidance for developing self confidence and drive,.

I have seen people either get rid or decrease their pimples with natural remedies from home and I wondered what I could use. So are there any natural home remedies you use and if yes please put it down.

Natural Home Remedies :
Gram Flour, Termeric powder, Plain Yogurt or Curd, Milk or water…the measurements arent really needed….Make a paste out of it….Leave it on until it becomes dry…Its called Basin, it actually makes your skin fresh looking….be careful not to add too much termeric powder…just half a spoon…Also Lime Juice is good for your skin…but i am not sure if it would remove all pimples….
Here’s another way you could do it:
go to lovelyskin.com and you can find products there that can absolutely satisfy you, also if your buying anything, by the Obaig kit..dont buy it seprately…Also, if you can find one, get a Oil Control product (Netrogena Rapid Oil Control) Its usually in a orange and white tube…..it works great on me..I see less and less pimples… Next if you can find a body or face scrub, its good to make the pimples less noticiable…Also, one last tip, is that wash your face at least 3 times a day with products…Once in teh morning when you wake up, next after you go for an outing, or extra activities, etc and last, right when your about to sleep…Also dont forget to apply cream after each wash…not too much..but as neccessary..dont make it to oily or too dry..I recommend Ponds cream…it works great on my skin

Okay before you say don’t do it dot do it I know the precautions I order in a kit that is all sterilized and I will sterilize it again before using it. I am doing this in a extremely clean area. I just need a step by step please I am not being stupid. I need the help so only helpful answers.
I am using a professional kit to peirce them I need to know where though i want them horizontal.
My Boyfriend is doing them
do they need to be hard?

if the kit has ink for marking,use that and check the marks to make sure they’re even and right where you want. center the clamp on the mark, take a deep breath and do it. don’t hesitate. i had a needle stop halfway through my nose and it isn’t fun. thats really about it. repeat on the other side. (my peircer used only one needle for both, but he drenched me in iodine first) you can insert the tip of your jewlery into the end of the needle so that when you pull it out, the bar is in. no fear of losing the hole.

i have mine done. it doesn’t hurt too bad if you use the hypodermic needle. just make sure that your boyfriend knows to make them straight and make sure everything is all clean and steril. you certainly don’t want that to get infected.
it’ll be sore for a few weeks, but make sure to wear your bra. it hurts worse when your shirt rubs against it.

for aftercare, use 1/2 teaspoon sea salt dissolved in 1C. warm water. put it into two dixie cups and them put it over your peircings. just like that Madonna look from the 90s. let it soak in about 15 min, 3 times per day and use a good antimicrobial soap in the shower. last thing in the shower to make sure you get any residue from other cleansers out.

and you’ll want to stay out of the walk-in cooler for a while. that really hurts if you’re not ready for it.

I have always had low self-esteem but it’s getting to the point where I am becoming seriously depressed. I have always thought of myself as ugly and having poor body issues as well. This wouldn’t be so bad if it wasn’t affecting my relationships. I’ve become really cold and insensitive towards the ones that I love. They tell me all the time that I am beautiful inside and out but I can never believe them. Can anyone help me? I don’t want to be this person anymore.

Thanks!

Best answer gets 10 points.

awww =( lauren! that’s awful. I’m sure you’re actually beautiful, you just don’t see it. I used to be a camp counselor and at the beginning of the camp (first day), we’d make these things called "magic cards" bare with me lol…they sounds pretty stupid but what they are, are little index cards that have something that others& you love about yourself. For example: one kid could have a card that said: I love how funny you are, or I love that you are so sweet and caring. Make like 15 of these cards for yourself. I don’t care how corny it sounds, DO IT! It really will help, everyday look at the cards and believe them. To get some ideas, try asking your family members, or friends, what do you like about me? If you ever need to talk email me

I have never heard of one but wouldn’t it be interesting to have a beauty contest where no cosmetics, hair extensions or dyed or permed hair, sprayed on tans, or plastic surgery were allowed in the contestants? Wonder how many would actually try out for such a contest?

I agree, that would be interesting. Natural beauty is an important thing and it’s what we’re all made to enjoy, anyway.