Self Improvement Tips & Resources

I want to dye my hair, i usually use garnier nutrisse cream (dark brown), but this fades very very quickly, any other good makes that any one can tell me that:
Leaves hair healthy and keeps colour for longer.
Also if any one has used the schwarzkopf live hair dye please let me know what you thought!
Many Thanks!
Garnier 100% works really well, for me at least.
And it comes with a flippin’ amazing conditioner!

http://www.garnierusa.com/_en/_us/our_products/products_trade.aspx?tpcode=OUR_PRODUCTS^PRD_HAIRCOLOR^100_COLOR^100_COLOR_BENEFITS

Where can a couple who wants to save their marriage find "free" self-help programs on the internet to help them identify areas of weaknesses so they can hopefully improve the quality of life for both and for all, including the children who are aslo very concerned?
Main area of weaknesses need options that prehaps have not been considered; of course there is always more to the story…

Thanks,

Ed

Check out marriagebuilders.com. It has alot of quizes and info on how to communicate.

Good luck.

How does using one’s memories help create a true sense of self, as opposed to relying on the opinions of others? I have gone into a self-philosophical argument about this and was curious to hear what others think.

Basically, I am asking how memories create a sense of unique identity by which each person can truly define himself/herself, but how people generally do not rely on memories but instead, through their self-consciousness, rely on others to drive their actions.

What are your thoughts on this?

Here are my random thoughts. I feel to a certain extent we Can rely on other people….afterall we do live in a society and others, in a way, help us show who we are, or reflect things back to us. But we should know that if those people make errors, or leave, would it leave us crippled? it would deplete or erode our sense of identity if we don’t have our own inner resources to hold ourselves up. I don’t believe it is healthy at all to only depend on other people. We can have supporters but, really, knowing how everyone is fighting their own battles, and knowing the transitory nature of things, it is best to rely only on yourself for your feelings of self-efficacy, self-esteem, and self-confidence. Be your own best friend, and know who you are. Don’t compare yourself to others. Know your strengths, work on your weaknesses. Value yourself, uphold your self-respect, and don’t fall down when someone in your life leaves you.

Does anyone know of any gay self help books? I am a gay African-American, who suffers from a low self esteem, and I was wondering is there a book that can help me improve my negative outlook of myself. I really want to fall in love, but I don’t think I can commit to someone if I suffer from these issues like being overweight, being african-american.(things of that nature) .

Hi James. For books on the subject of the psychology of gay people, I would think a search of amazon.com would yield useful results. Some titles I have read and enjoyed are Same Sex Love and The Path to Wholeness, a collection of essays by Jungian psychologists, edited by Scott Wirth. In fact search for anything by him or enter him into google. He writes very well, especially about homophobia (including internalised homophobia). Sex Between Men also a good read, and Being Homosexual. Also Virtually Normal is good, especially on the subject of the importance of equality of status for gay people in terms of marriage and military service.
Gay men are generally more body fascist then any other group unfortunately. If this is causing you insecurity, the tired advice is really, learn about nutrition and exercise, develop realistic weight loss goals, so as not to sabotage yourself, and realise only you can change this. If you admire healthy bodies, then do the work you need to so you can have one. Your health, moods, and even your posture will all improve.
And that said, you must realise that the world is now a very different place in terms of racial prejudice. People of all races are beautiful, and not only African American folk will tell you that. But only you can challenge whatever stereotypes you have taken on board. I am forty three, Australian, and of caucasian stock. My first boyfriend was Indian, and I have had a five year relationship with a Chinese/Vietnamese man, as well as a few caucasians over the years. I came out in 1986. We are truly all the same under the skin mate. Good luck.

I am already employed but i am seriously interested in changing the job and attracting my dream job.

Any answers will be highly appreciated.

I don’t beleive self-hypnosis should be relied upon for doing what you want it to do.

If you are really unsure of your career path, you might want to see a career counselor, or counseling psychologist. They can work with you and determine your strenghts, and help you decide what you want to do, and what you would be good at. There are all sorts of personality tests that are availalble as well, that can help tailer your "dream job" to what best fits your strenghts and interests.

Any great epiphany you realize while listening to a self-hypnotic tract is probably something you already knew…

i feel like i do not deserve to find a gf and i am way to hard on my self and have a hard time express my self and feelings .also opening up to people and letting people in and i keep thing bottled up and stuff. I feel like i can not find happiness just being my self.

They can, its a possibility.

Is it really about deserving? Maybe you have done something, and you are afraid you won’t be accepted because of it. What else do you have to offer that you think is acceptable?

Try taking time to put your thoughts on paper. Your fingers don’t have to merely exist to eat.

I have always been working towards improving my position in life. Next year I hope to finish my degree or be close enough to finishing my degree.

What are some of your plans?

I am going to do better next semester; I am wasting my time and money by not studying and getting watered down grades. Now that I’m in college it’s time to take school very seriously; I shouldn’t be fooling around anymore.

I’m worried about my body, and what boys think about it, please do this little task for me, and don’t see don’t worry about my boys think, because that won’t help, and i know not to worry, i just want to know what they think. Basically im flat chested, and boys noticed it, but i want you to guess, if you see this picture of me, what bra size would you say i am? I’m on the left of the picture.
http://i.picasion.com/pic34/ebc67710ffb6b2a1230b933050fc88ba.gif

brb

Describe what certain spells can do for someone(like how they are used and what for), have you ever done a spell? and please don’t tell me not to try it, it’s not good for you, just answer the question.

the real question is in the title. I want to be a happier person please help me.

Pretty much, if you can conceive of a need or desire, there is a spell to help you acheive it. Spellcraft is an art that is adaptable to just about any human need.

There are probably a great number of spells that can help you acheive this particular goal, but I’ll list my favorites.
My basic universal-purpose spell is a candle spell. This involved charging a candle with a need or goal and lighting it. This can be adapted to any need and can be surrounded by many layers of other ritual that can help strengthen the working, but the basics involve concentrating on what you want… (in this case, focusing on how you would feel if you were confident, self-assure, had self-respect and pride in yourself) and putting that image mentally and energetically into or onto the candle. Adding herbs, oils or other ritual actions (such as using chanting to raise energy, using a photo of yourself to help you focus etc) can help add oomph.

The candle can be used to add oomph to other ritual actions as well. One of the most effective for self-improvement and self-esteem that I know of, is keeping up a series of affirmations. This could be anything, such as "I am worthwhile, I am beautiful, I am a successful person, I am a fountain of joy and all those around me are happier people for knowing me, I am a white-light being full of infinite potential, I am a skilled and talented individual who works hard and is recognized for my contributions, I am desirable, charismatic, freindly," etc etc etc… whatever it is that you wish to become. Spend a little time every day repeating these affirmations (and picturing them as true… always work in present-tense… if you say "I will be happy" your goal will always be in the future, just beyond your grasp), perhaps as a chant with your candle lit. Perhaps do this in front of a mirror. Use symbols and reminders of these goals whenever you can… pictures of yourself smiling, awards you’ve won, a picture of a hero you admire, a string wrapped around your wrist in a color that reminds you of how you want to feel… get creative and fill your life with these symbols, reminders, affirmations and self-assurances. Fill your life with the energy you hope to reflect within yourself and avoid people and situations who bring you down, insult you, anger you or make you feel unworthy as much as you can.
It may seem silly at first, but eventually, you will begin to feel the effects. It works! It worked for me… it took some time, but it really did work for me.
-Scarlet

please help me my husband paul is away and im feelin sexual urges towards his sister.
i cant help but feel this way and i dont know how to stop it.
please help me as i love my husband, but im confused…

Give her a good licking.