Self Improvement Tips & Resources

1. Monzorella Said,

   ———–pray with them———–
   ————-read the bible with them—————
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2. K Said,

   Harm reduction is the best method. use ice on the skin etc. have a look at this site http://www.selfharm.org.uk/default.aspa and seek support for both of you.
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3. Lyle C Said,

   Unless your a therapist, all any of us can do is provide positive encouragement and support (to stop the harmful actions of course).
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4. Phoenix (Anti-Jonas) Said,

   Let him know that it’s just not worth it.
   Everyone will have a rough spot in thier life but self harm is not the way to get through it. He needs to be strong and realise that people do actually care for him, and that self harm doesn’t solve anything but makes it worse.

   If he can’t see this, then you should talk to his family about it, and they may help you sort counselling for him. Keep a close eye on him too, incase he does something sstupid….
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   My sister used to self harm a lot

5. probablygraham Said,

   Having had a girlfriend who self-harmed I can only suggest years of therapy to make them deal with what caused the self-harming to start in the first place.
   You don’t say how you managed to stop. Maybe that would help.
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6. Maars Said,

   Pray with them and read the Bible with them. Also, make them feel loved and important. Don’t ever belittle them. Remind them of their capabilities.
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7. ROBERT M Said,

   The person concerned needs professional help, and they need to ask for any help them selves, no one can force help on them. They have serious underlying problems that need to be addressed first before they can ask for help. But just be there for them please.
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8. GLAMOUR BEACH BABE Said,

   i used to self harm i know its difficult, u feel as though ur on ur own when your doing that.
   Maybe he’s got depression coz it aint normal to be doing that. u should really encourage him to see his GP and go with him for support. if he doesnt listen to u, then get someone else to talk to him, mayb someone else who he’s very close to like a friend or family member.
   wot cause him to self harm???
   he should get professional help like a councellor, i konw u want to help but sometimes only a professional can to that.
   be there for him every step of the way until he recovers.
   takecare hun x
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9. Loopy-Lou Said,

   try not to get upset - just remember that it is his way of coping. just try to make sure he knows that you are there for him if he wants to talk.

   i am a self harmer and i found it helpful to have a code with my best mate where i called her and asked something like "whats the weather like tomorrow" and that was her que to ask if everything was ok.

   you cant stop him from doing it but maybe if you go to the doctors with him and see if he can be referred for councelling as i find it helps to talk to a stranger rather than someone i know.

   just make sure the injuries are looked after as if they are not they may become infected.

   good luck, and just remember to be there for him xxx
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10. cassie1644 Said,

    The best thing you can do is stand by him and understand that sometimes he may need to do it just to get a release and get away from what he is feeling inside. If he isn’t already getting help through his GP or a therapist then I would suggest he talk to someone so he can understand why he self-harms. Just being supportive is sometimes enough for him to realise that someone cares about him and there is a place for him in this world. Good luck and take care. xx
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11. LEONARD W Said,

    support him and try and get mental health profesionals involved my wife has issues relating to this so i know what you are going through she has got a great mental health social worker
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12. rob w 6.0 Said,

    i self harm i am a bloke so I’m in a similar position as he is.
    its not seen by many people as a male issue normally the press talk about females who self harm.
    is he known as a self harmer to his GP? if not try to get him to talk to his doctor i did and its great i ended up with a social worker & take anti-depressants and have done cognitive behavioural therapy - its very good it doesn’t like other talking therapies dwell on the past but tries to give you skills and ideas on how to deal with troubling thought in the here and now. although i stuggle am doing it less and less
    if he is shy to approach his GP point him to a very good, safe place on the Internet its called
    http://www.recoveryourlife.com/
    its aim is to help people its not a sick pro s/i site
    sadly ultimately its up to him to as to weather he wants help
    all you can do is be there for him
    you sound a very good person to stand by your b/f and want to help him
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13. i dont know who i am? Said,

    try to tell him how you stopped and help him through
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14. Lil Shy Keza Said,

    ive self harmed and i helped my friend by going out gettin her mind of it
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15. Jules Said,

    You sort of answered your own question. And deep down you also know that unless your boyfriend is prepared to accept help and want to stop then there is little you can do to make him.

    Please try this link to the Mind website

    Understanding self harm:
    http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/Understanding+self-harm.htm

    the information is easy to read and understand and it will give you some pointers on things to try to encourage your boyfriend to get help.

    Hope this helps.
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    Mental health support worker

16. monita Said,

    I bought a personal development kit that changed my lifestyle. There are lot of simple activities there which helped me in many ways. However, it cost me around US$1500. It was expensive for me but I think it’s the best investment I ever made for myself. If you are interested to know further I can provide you with the details, you can contact me via email. If you think it’s expensive etc then I would recommend you to talk to your boyfriend about positive things as much as you can and do not mention about his self harm behavior. Hope this helps
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