I really appreciate/need any self-help advice I can get…?
Serious answers only please. I’m looking for a good self-help book, or something. I’m not sure what because I have never felt this down before and I need it to stop. Here’s a little bit about me:
I’m a college student going through a major slump right now. I basically got bullied by some immature girls and my bosses allowed it, the I ended up getting fired for sticking up for myself in a meeting. This job was making it possible for me to afford school, so now I don’t know if I’ll be able to return. I got a 3.165, I was expecting at least a 3.3. My grandpa died 2 months ago. 2 weeks after that we had to put my dog down. I have been looking for a job for the past month, nobody is hiring and those that are are not hiring me. I just got scammed with a $50 "background check" fee for a nonexistent job. My best friend, since 7th grade, planned a camping trip with another good friend of mine and they will be camping with another mutual friend and are seeing our whole "group" of college friends this weekend, we’re all college best friends. I found out about it 2 days ago and was not invited (I keep getting texts asking why I’m not coming, and all I can say back is "I wasn’t invited," which makes me feel extra shitty). I’m not sure why I wasn’t invited and who’s behind it. I also gained 20 lbs in the past year and a half, but cannot get motivated to work out (My weight has always been something I’m self-conscious of and the extra weight has destroyed my self-esteem. I blame my weight for not getting hired, not going out, and not having anyone more than a friend in my life).
I got out of school at the beginning of May and since then I have not gone out, or done anything besides sit around the house really. I don’t feel worthy to have fun (or to be any kind of sexually active). I’m embarrassed to have gained so much weight, still be jobless, and have gotten such shitty grades. I also am not a fan of most the people I live around. They are all skinny and rich, and have given the vibe that they think they are better than me for as long as I can remember. I have only kept in touch with a handful of people since high school, and out of those I only want to make an effort to hangout with 3 of them.
I’m going crazy not doing anything, but also do not want to do anything…if that makes any sense. It’s hard to explain. If anyone has any advice/can recommend a book to read to help me out of this slump, I’d really appreciate it. I’ve never felt like this before and I do not know what to do. I want to feel better before it can get any worse. I know this isn’t healthy. I am normally a happy person.
So you have had major stress events back to back….enter lack of B vitamins…stress loves to eat B vitamins like no tomorrow. Lack of B vitamins…enter depression/lack of motivation/low serotonin central. I can highly recommend B vitamins (under the tongue oral vitamin sprays are brillant - 20 seconds into the blood stream). Digestive enzyme supplements are fantastic to help with digestive problems and losing weight. As for books, you could look through google books…some have most of the book to read online.
Google books:
http://books.google.com.au/books?q=health&btnG=Search+Books
Read Proverbs in your Bible.
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So you have had major stress events back to back….enter lack of B vitamins…stress loves to eat B vitamins like no tomorrow. Lack of B vitamins…enter depression/lack of motivation/low serotonin central. I can highly recommend B vitamins (under the tongue oral vitamin sprays are brillant - 20 seconds into the blood stream). Digestive enzyme supplements are fantastic to help with digestive problems and losing weight. As for books, you could look through google books…some have most of the book to read online.
Google books:
http://books.google.com.au/books?q=health&btnG=Search+Books
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RedAngel
everybody has a down side when it comes to life.
-i think your Bestfriend didn’t invite you because he/she feels you might be embarrassed and feel awkward about your financial status. thougn, he/she should’ve asked you because it was rude.
-this is a part of life, where you feel no one’s beside you and nothings going on your way that makes you feel down/depressed or blah. time will pass and you’ll soon find a job. physical appearnce is not everything. if you show them youre a happy and bubbly person and credible enough then, they’ll give you a shot. as long as, you don’t show them how down and depressed you are. don’t be plain, put a smile on your face. one problem youre not getting a job is because you have low self-esteem. i too, have low self-esteem, but i don’t show them. pretend like youre confident and youll soon be one. being a confident person gets you more opportunity.
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Start by making a list of all of the things you like about yourself, and taping it up somewhere that you will see it everyday. Then, anytime you think something negative about yourself, replace it with one of the things you have written down. Over time, it will become like a second nature to compliment yourself when feeling down.
Find something that you are really good at, and that you feel good about yourself while doing it, then plan events or hanging out around that one thing. For example, say you are really good about bowling and when you bowl you feel awesome about yourself. Invite some people that make you feel GOOD about yourself, to go bowling with you. It is much easier to be confident and more social when you are doing something that makes you feel good about yourself.
Also, do something like get a haircut, get a manicure or pedicure, or get a new outfit! It’s amazing what a confidence boost you get from any of these things. I actually have a website where I create outfits for people to help boost their self esteem! My website is http://danicaliforniaoutfits.com and I will create you some outfits! My motto is Real Style, Real You. I also have a blog about self esteem, confidence, fitness, and health! It’s http://IAmFree2BeMe.blogspot.com
Remember that you are beautiful inside and out no matter what people might tell you or what you think of yourself. Hold your head held high and think about all of the things YOU love about yourself. Stand your ground and stay true to yourself and what you believe in. Surround yourself with people that make you feel good about yourself and confident. Don’t waste your time on those who make you feel bad!
"Always wear an invisible crown on your head" - Author Unknown
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